Magical Sleep Stories for Grownups: 2020 Collection Vol. 02

This sleep meditation sleep stories for grownups album is available on most downloads and streaming services including Spotify, iTunes, Apple Music, Amazon Music, Google Music and Soundcloud (search your preferred streaming or downloads service to find the album, or search for specific tracks).

The sleep meditation sleep stories for grownups on this album are:

  • Hope and Discovery
  • One Night on a Ranch
  • Painting in the Art Gallery
  • Painting the Village
  • Portal Between Worlds
  • The Fortune Teller
  • The Healing Journey
  • The Magical Flowers
  • The Magical Queen
  • The Valley of Peace
  • Time for Love
  • Valley from the Future
  • Vintage Clothing Time Travel

☀️ SUMMER SALE on Hypnotherapy eCourses – SAVE up to 95%

Are you looking for something new to learn through the summer?

Here, you can save up to 95% on these 16 courses of mine (further details below – all courses $9.99 USD/£9.99 GBP or equivalent Udemy currency conversion and taxes) which I have developed to help people to learn hypnosis and hypnotherapy and develop your skills and abilities as a therapeutic practitioner. You can click the links below to be taken straight to the individual courses on Udemy with discounts applied, or read down the page for course descriptions. You can also bookmark this email if you would like to follow the links and benefit from the discounts at some time in the future:

Have you ever wanted to be able to hypnotise anyone? Would you like to know how to do hypnosis without needing hypnosis scripts? Are you new to hypnosis, perhaps with no experience and wondering where to start? If you answer yes to any of these questions then this introduction to hypnosis course may well be for you. Building on my free Learn Hypnosis in an Hour course How to do Hypnosis teaches you what you need to know to be able to hypnotise anyone without the need for hypnosis scripts, this course is the next step up from my ‘Learn Hypnosis In An Hour course giving more detail and focusing more on developing your ability to do unscripted hypnosis. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The How to do Rapid Hypnotic Inductions course will teach you twenty hypnotic inductions (twelve rapid hypnotic inductions which can all be used to hypnotise people in under 60 seconds plus an additional eight hypnotic inductions which take anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of minutes to induce hypnosis). Learn how the inductions are done and the principles behind them. Learn about attention, confusion, and interrupting patterns. Learn about confidence, and the role that context plays to make the inductions more effective. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

The How to Write Hypnotherapy Scripts course teaches you how to write your own hypnotherapy scripts. The course is structured to give you the information you need to definitely know before you start writing scripts first, then the information about how to write and structure your scripts. Following this you will learn about gathering relevant client information. Then there is a section of hypnotherapy scripts samples to help give you ideas and more examples of hypnotherapy scripts, including a script which was written for a genuine client. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

The Self Hypnosis for Personal Development course is about how self hypnosis can be used to help with personal development and for overcoming problems. This course is also about how self hypnosis can be useful for clients in counselling or therapy. This course covers: What self hypnosis is, Uses of self hypnosis, How to make your own audio tracks, How self hypnosis can be integrated into counselling and therapy, Therapeutic techniques, Structured inductions, How to develop your own inductions, How to re-induce hypnosis and set up self hypnosis triggers. This course is also ideal for those new to doing hypnosis who would like some structured hypnotic inductions they can do with clients. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

The Conversational Hypnotherapy course isn’t the same as many courses on conversational hypnosis. My view is that many courses over-complicate how to do conversational hypnosis. This course helps you get a good grounding to build on by learning what hypnosis is, what trance is, the main theories about what hypnosis is and a brief history about hypnosis, and the different ways trance and hypnosis get induced. The course includes a number of hypnosis demonstrations. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Ericksonian Hypnotherapy course teaches you about the history of hypnosis, through to the work of Milton H Erickson and how to do Ericksonian Hypnotherapy. By the end you will know how to do hypnotherapy without the need for structured hypnotic inductions, without the need for hypnotherapy scripts, and without the need to just do ‘suggestion therapy’ hypnotherapy. You will know how to work with clients as unique, individual human being, and tailor what you do to each person as an individual. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Self Publishing Made Easy course is great for hypnotherapists and coaches looking to generate additional income by writing books and ebooks. The course teaches you how to find a niche market to write about, and how to judge the popularity of that niche, what research to carry out before writing your book, how to create and layout your manuscripts for print and ebook publishing, how to publish print-on-demand books with Lulu Publishing, how to publish print-on-demand books with Amazon’s CreateSpace publishing platform, the benefits and disadvantages between Lulu Publishing and CreateSpace, how to publish Kindle ebooks with Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing platform, how to market your book, and ways to increase book sales, and more. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Solution Focused Therapy course teaches you about the history of solution focused therapy, I then start with the big picture and hone in on the specifics. So you will learn why solution focused therapy is useful, what the benefits are of using a solution focused approach, and the therapeutic direction of using a solution focused approach. I will also share my views about doing solution focused therapy, based on over 20 years of working with a wide range of people using this approach. My opinion differs from many other solution focused practitioners and trainers around some areas due to my knowledge of the work of Milton Erickson and my experiences with hypnosis. I then share various techniques and talk about pre-session change as something to kick-start success and empowerment right from the first session, and the power of scaling, I also talk about best hopes, which is about establishing what the client wants from therapy, and exceptions, which are those times when the clients problem didn’t exist but they would have expected it to exist, or when it did happen, yet they would have expected it not to happen, and when it just doesn’t happen. Exceptions are where solutions and insights to the clients problem, and the pattern of the problem can be found. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The Introduction to Mindfulness Meditation course teaches you what mindfulness meditation is and how it works, how to prepare to experience mindfulness meditation and what the benefits of mindfulness meditation are to your health, wellbeing and success. The course also includes four guided mindfulness meditations: Re-centring Mindfulness Meditation, Body Awareness Mindfulness Meditation, Multi-Sensory Moment Mindfulness Meditation, Master Your Awareness Mindfulness Meditation. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The Introduction to Effective Parenting of Children and Teens course teaches you parenting styles and skills. If you work with families, children, or within parenting support services, or you have an interest in understanding parenting styles and what works when parenting children and teens, then this course is likely to be helpful to you. This course is based on two decades of experience I have had working with children and teens with challenging behaviour, ADHD, and Autism including helping to set up a therapeutic children’s home and carrying out parenting research with a Youth Offending Service around reducing youth crime and antisocial behaviour by teaching parents the skills and knowledge taught in this course to help them change how they parent, and working with parents and families through one-to-one support and group work. I also have Autism myself, which has helped give me a different perspective and a deeper understanding of those I have worked with. This course teaches what is known about effective parenting. I have taught everything in this course to parents, and to professionals who work with families. This course teaches what is felt to be the best approaches to effective parenting. What is taught here works with children and teens from those who behave well, to those who display violence and aggression, those with ADHD, and those on the autistic spectrum. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The Smoking Cessation course teaches you what information to have on your referral form, how to decide what to charge and different ideas around payment plans, insurance and data protection (based on UK laws and rules), what you need to consider around whether to set up offering single session treatments, multiple sessions, or group work – either a course of group sessions, or a single day course, what information you need from a client before you decide whether to work with them, how to increase the effectiveness of your coaching by setting tasks for the client before they come for their first session, evidence-based approaches to helping people quit smoking, a selection of additional techniques which can be used to help smoker’s to quit smoking, a brief overview of the four main therapeutic approaches to helping people beat addictions – motivational interviewing, solution focused therapy, cognitive behavioural therapy, and hypnosis and the structure of what needs to be covered to best help someone quit. The course is structured chronologically so that you can imagine how the process would unfold, from what you need to consider before you see a client, to having first contact with the client, and what you expect of them prior to the first session, then through evidence-based practice around helping people achieve success with quitting smoking, and on to introducing different therapeutic approaches which are helpful to use when working with smokers, before covering the information you will need to address with clients to give yourself the best chance of helping them achieve lasting success, and finally additional techniques you can use with clients to help them stop smoking. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) course is a comprehensive introduction to the topic of CBT. It teaches CBT therapy skills which can help to treat anxiety and depression and a variety of other problems presented in counselling and psychotherapy like anger, addiction, self-esteem and confidence. This course is ideal for counsellors, NLP practitioners, hypnotherapists and life coaches who want to add CBT to their toolbox of skills and techniques and for those who would like to use these skills for self-help. The course includes an 80 page downloadable PDF workbook of the slides and space for taking notes on the lectures, a downloadable PDF supporting materials document which contains blank copies of all of the various documents covered throughout this course. This CBT course covers how to use cognitive behavioural therapy to treat anxiety, depression, addictions, low confidence and self-esteem, anger and sleep difficulties. Through this CBT course you will learn what CBT is, what the benefits are of doing CBT, the principles of CBT, how to identify problems and find solutions, how to identify the key thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviours to work on, how to tackle faulty thinking styles, how to challenge unhelpful beliefs and create helpful beliefs, how clients use metaphor and how to use metaphors therapeutically and relaxation and mindfulness skills. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

How To Tell Stories That Heal teaches you how to tell therapeutic stories. Most people don’t notice how prevalent metaphor use is when we communicate. In therapy clients will be communicating in metaphors to the therapist. These metaphors and other information the client shares can be used to develop healing stories which can be told to the client to help them move forward and overcome their problems. In this course you will learn how to identify metaphors, patterns and content that clients share, how to use this information to create therapeutic stories and metaphors and my process for presenting stories and metaphors to clients that I find most effective. I also include a free copy of my Hypnotherapy Training Tool (RRP £49.99 GBP) which you can download and use to practice creating therapeutic stories for clients with various problems and a video of a live client session taken from a training course where I demonstrate gathering information, finding metaphors and content for my story before presenting my therapeutic story as the sole therapeutic intervention with this client. The demonstration includes the clients reaction which shows the impact this one story had on them when created and delivered using the approach outlined in this course. Access The Course Here Saving 89%

Treating PTSD, Trauma and Phobias With The Rewind Technique. In this course you will learn how to treat phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder and the trauma underlying many problems (like depression, anxiety and addictions) often in a single session using the power of the rewind technique. The rewind technique is a fast, effective process for neutralising phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder and trauma rapidly. It is a technique which I feel should be in the toolbox of all psychological therapists and coaches. To aid your learning there are additional notes and I have included 12 of my self-hypnosis PTSD and phobia treatment mp3’s that you can use yourself or listen to as examples of using the rewind technique to treat different phobias and PTSD. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

Understanding and Treating Depression is a course for counsellors, hypnotherapists, and other professionals working with clients who may have depression. The course can also be taken by those interested in gaining a greater understanding about depression for personal development or learning. This course contains a 54-page PDF of extensive course notes and a document listing recommended reading and links to articles to supplement the information covered. On this course you will learn: what depression is and the symptoms of depression, what causes and maintains depression and how to treat depression. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

In this Understanding and Working With Autistic Client’s in Therapy course I share the different challenges and traits autistic people have and how these can manifest and impact on the problem the client is presenting with, how they can manifest and impact on the therapy and how you can work with the client and present your therapy to get the best results. You will also have an idea of the kinds of things which clients may say and do that could lead to you as a therapist to feel that the client could be autistic. This isn’t a course teaching you how to do therapy or coaching, the expectation is that you are already trained to do therapy or coaching if you are working as a therapist or coach. This course teaches you about the traits, challenges and strengths of autistic clients and how the client being autistic can impact on their life and on how they respond in therapy to give you ideas about understanding autistic clients better and have ideas and insights for how you can best help them. The course doesn’t teach you how to ‘treat’ autism as autism isn’t something you can cure. Autistic people are born autistic and can’t be ‘cured’ of autism, but I am open about my own personal experiences within the course and share my own examples and examples of experiences of people I have worked with to illustrate what behaviours others might see and what is going on for the autistic person in that moment, and what things can help the autistic person, like what skills they might need to be taught to reduce the impact of certain challenges the client may have on the presenting problem. Access The Course Here Saving 89%

All the best

Dan

I try to be very active in all of my training courses to help students with any questions they may have to get the most out of the training, and I try to respond within 24 hours to questions.

New Autism Course For Therapists, Coaches & Those Interested In Understanding What It Is Like To Be Autistic

It is World Autism Awareness Week 2019 from Monday 1st April. As a pre-WAAW2019 I wanted to tell you some exciting news. This is so new it isn’t even on my site on the courses page yet. I wanted you to be among the first to know about a new course I have created ‘Understanding and Working With Autistic Client’s in Therapy‘ which you can access here for just $9.99 USD (or equivalent price based on exchange rate and taxes for your country).

As well as having over 20 years of experience working with autistic individuals of all ages and working within a variety of contexts from care homes for adults, care homes for children and teens, to working with families, couples and individuals in private practice, I am also autistic, so this isn’t just a course by an autism professional about working with autistic clients. It is course from someone who can share their own lived experience of being autistic as well as professional experience with autistic clients.

Between 1 in 68 and 1 in 100 people are autistic depending on what data you look at. Many autistic adults are undiagnosed and may not even realise they could be autistic. Any counsellor, psychological therapist or coach in full-time practice is likely to encounter diagnosed and undiagnosed autistic clients. It could be that the client doesn’t realise that they are autistic. Most counselling, therapy and coaching training doesn’t cover autism, so the therapist also may not realise that the client could be autistic, yet knowledge of this could lead to better outcomes for that client and greater awareness of what support and guidance would be helpful.

This course may also be of interest to those who don’t do psychological therapy or coaching but who want to know more about how autism presents and what the world is like for autistic people and how autism can impact on problems people have and better understanding behaviours that you observe. This course focuses more on working with autistic adults rather than on working with autistic children but includes examples involving behaviours of autistic children and teens and includes a PDF of my autobiography which gives a frank description and insight at all ages of being autistic and shares my professional views as well as personal insights.

You can join the course here for just $9.99 USD (or equivalent exchange rate and taxes for your country) or follow the link to learn more and sample the first 30 or so minutes of video lectures.

Included with this course are:

  • 11 PDF supporting documents totalling over 18,000 words of additional content
  • A PDF of my autobiography ‘Look Into My Eyes’ about being autistic which is over 68,500 words
  • A PDF Sussex Hypnotherapy Centre certificate of completion which you can print out for Continued Professional Development on completion of the course

In this Understanding and Working With Autistic Client’s in Therapy course I share the different challenges and traits autistic people have and how these can manifest and impact on the problem the client is presenting with, how they can manifest and impact on the therapy and how you can work with the client and present your therapy to get the best results. You will also have an idea of the kinds of things which clients may say and do that could lead to you as a therapist to feel that the client could be autistic.

This isn’t a course teaching you how to do therapy or coaching, the expectation is that you are already trained to do therapy or coaching if you are working as a therapist or coach. This course teaches you about the traits, challenges and strengths of autistic clients and how the client being autistic can impact on their life and on how they respond in therapy to give you ideas about understanding autistic clients better and have ideas and insights for how you can best help them.

The course doesn’t teach you how to ‘treat’ autism as autism isn’t something you can cure. Autistic people are born autistic and can’t be ‘cured’ of the autism, but I am open about my own personal experiences within the course and share my own examples and examples of experiences of people I have worked with to illustrate what behaviours others might see and what is going on for the autistic person in that moment, and what things can help the autistic person, like what skills they might need to be taught to reduce the impact of certain challenges the client may have on the presenting problem.

Throughout this course you can ask any questions you may have and I will answer them as best I can. I am happy to be open and answer questions from my personal perspective as an autistic individual, or from a psychological therapist perspective.

You can follow this link to check out the first 30 minutes or so of video lectures for free and find out more about the course.

What you’ll learn

  • Learn about what autism is and the thoughts around what causes autism
  • Understand autistic traits, challenges and strengths and how these can relate to a client’s presenting problem and in therapy
  • Learn ways you can interact with autistic clients and what you can do to help and support the client therapeutically

Are there any course requirements or prerequisites?

  • To get the most out of this course you will ideally already be working as a psychological therapist or with people in a support, coaching or therapeutic capacity where knowledge of autistic clients would be helpful
  • If you want to print off the resources you will require a printer

Who this course is for:

  • Counsellors and psychological therapists, hypnotherapists and coaches who work may encounter diagnosed and undiagnosed autistic clients
  • This course isn’t for those who are looking for training in how to treat autism itself, there are ideas around helping autistic people with challenges they face by being autistic, but autism itself isn’t curable

Do Not Buy This Book: Compiled By = Take Others Work Without Permission

I received Hypnosis: The Myths, The Truth and The Techniques ‘compiled by’ Dean Amory as a Christmas present. I wrote a shorter version of this review for Amazon to alert others to this book and author, but Amazon wouldn’t allow my review to be posted. They said it goes against their guidelines, but I have reviewed their guidelines and can’t see how? And I feel it is important for people to know about this book and more importantly about this author.

(Some of the people who have their work in this book: Jeff Sauber, Orkhan Ibad, D. John Anthony, Stephen Walkin PhD, Michael A Robinson RN, Trevor Johnson, Keith Livingston, David Mason, John Sadler, Ron Stubbs, Dr Frank Valente, Stephen and Carol Lankton, Kaiden Fox)

I have an extensive hypnotherapy book collection of over 600 books and have authored over 30 books myself. I had this book on my Amazon wishlist of hypnotherapy books I didn’t yet own. When I received the book, I started reading and saw that it says at the beginning that it is ‘compiled by’ the author and is works available on the internet compiled to make it easier to find these works. I assumed that the author (compiler) would have asked permission from the various contributors and then I saw my name and a link to my very old MySpace account saying that some of the work in the book was mine. My name, and the other authors names, were only mentioned at the beginning, so reading through the book you don’t know (unless you have read it before or are the author) what specifically is which authors work. 

There is nothing inherently wrong with much of the content, the issue is that this ‘compiler’ is stealing the works of others and profiting from it (and from researching the author he appears to still be doing so under various names through Amazon Createspace, Kindle Direct Publishing and Lulu Publishing). He is doing so with many of the books he has available and from doing research he is doing so as other author names as well, presumably following people challenging him over taking their work. On some of the books it says to email him if you have found your work used and are unhappy with this and he will remove what he used of yours and replace it with someone else’s. This essentially means he will replace your stolen work that you have stumbled upon and replace it with someone else’s stolen work until they stumble upon it.

The compiler seems to think that he is allowed to use the work because it has been published on the internet, and so totally misunderstands copyright. Some places, like Wikipedia, allow their work to be used in this way and state on Wikipedia that you can create books of compiled articles from Wikipedia and profit from this and you don’t even have to tell the reader that the book is just compiled Wikipedia articles the person could have read online for free. But other places, like my blog, is of content that belongs to the creator of that content that they are choosing to share on their own website or pages etc, and unless otherwise stated isn’t available for someone to take and use in its entirety.

The compiler isn’t just using extracts to expand on his own concepts or writing and including references like many books do where they may use a sentence, couple of sentences or a paragraph or two in context with what a section of a book and referencing so that people can trace the source, it is just others work copied and pasted into his book with some editing, which in the case of my work in this book has meant that because he clearly doesn’t know or understand the subject himself he has ruined the explanations. An example of this is where I gave an example of saying when presenting “You can find the handouts over by the products on the table at the back of the room” and adding emphasis to ‘by (buy) the products)’. The compiler has gone through the whole section I wrote on that (which is actually an extract from a sales book of mine where I shared some extracts from my book to give people a taste of what was in that book of mine, not so that someone would copy it and put it in their book, and they don’t even say it is an extract from my sales book) and only emphasised the word ‘by’ over and over again, and totally missed the point of what he is posting (I assume he pasted unformated and then tried to guess what words etc were embedded commands). It is cringing to read my own work being made to look so poor and made to not make proper sense.

I have contributed to dozens of books over the years, I also share extracts from my books as blog posts etc, not for people to take my work and publish it in its entirety in their own books. I am frequently happy to contribute to books and had the compiler asked myself and other authors whether we were happy to contribute our blogposts or to write a chapter etc many of us are likely to have said yes. I have written some long blogposts which would probably make good book chapters, and if an author asked and it stated that chapter was by me with a 50 word or so author bio about me and a link to my website I would likely agree to this, but I wouldn’t for this compiler now, because of the fact they have been doing this for years and have likely had this issue raised many times over the years (I have done some research and know that the issue has been raised with them a number of times in relation to different books and suspect that is why they have added their comment to newer books about if you find your work in a book and are unhappy with this, to get in touch and he will remove your work and replace it with someone else’s).

I would recommend not purchasing this book or any other books by this author. I will be trying to find a way to get this person’s books discontinued where they are doing this and hope that they change their approach to books. If you search the internet you can see that they often leave good reviews for their own books under different names, so I don’t imagine they will change unless Amazon, Lulu and other sites refused to sell their books and refuse to publish their work.

Develop Skills Like Jedi From Star Wars

Did you know, I have created four hours of training for the Church of Jediism? (3 hours 40 minutes of training across 18 episodes and a 22 minute bonus video (below) about how to connect with and use the force).

Back in 2017 I was asked by Daniel Jones (not myself!) the founder of the Church of Jediism and author of Become The Force whether I would like to make some training courses for the Church. I wasn’t going to pass up the opportunity to teach others some of the Jedi knowledge I have, teaching my knowledge to those interested in learning is something I like doing. I was asked to make a 6-part course that was about an hour long. I was asked to make a Jedi Communication course. I did this, but quickly felt that more was needed. I felt that the communication had to go with good awareness skills, so I created this course, and felt that all of this had to be on a foundation of living a life from a more Jediist perspective, so I made a third course.

All of these three courses were compiled into a single 18-episode package available from the Church of Jediism. Following creating this package of Jedi training I was offered the opportunity to talk and demonstrate on a panel at MCM Comic-Con in London. Being autistic, this was terrifying, it was VERY busy. Then a month or two later I was asked to talk and demonstrate on a panel at the YouTube Space in London.

I was asked to create some training teaching how to develop skills that Jedi’s display in Star Wars (like the type of skills used by Obi Wan when he says “These aren’t the droids you are looking for”) and increased Jedi awareness training (like when Obi Wan has “a bad feeling about this” and their increased reaction times), and to increase your perception and understanding of the world around you, and a Jedi life balance training, so that you can lead a balanced, harmonious Jedi-like lifestyle.

You can access my training courses here and learn more about them below (at the very bottom is a video guiding you through a process of connecting with and using the force…

Each module consists of six episodes. Below is an overview of some of what you will learn on this training.

Jediist Communication Skills: 
(Episode are: The Power of Breathing, Communicating Hidden Messages, The Power of Implication, The Power of Vague Language and Metaphors, The Nature of Reality, Healing Communication)
  • Learn how to implant thoughts into the minds of others
  • How to communicate with the non-conscious part of people
  • Understand how people form the reality they live in and,
  • How you can influence and change this reality
  • Discover how to communicate in a way that can heal people by understanding about universal consciousness which permeates all things.
Jediist Awareness Training:
(Episodes are: Opening Up Your Awareness, Developing Visual Acuity, Developing Auditory Acuity, Developing Kinaesthetic Acuity, Noticing Patterns, Expanded Awareness Meditation)
  • Learn how to increase your awareness so that you can see, hear and feel more in the world around you and recognise sensory information which previously went unnoticed
  • Discover the world of patterns of communication which gives you the ability to know more about what is going on inside people’s minds than they realise they are revealing
  • Embed and enhance these new learnings with an opening your awareness guided meditation
Jediist Life Balance Training: 
(Episodes are: Balanced Living, Mindful Living, Everything Happens for a Reason, Humility Gratitude and Acceptance, Innate Emotional Needs)
  • Learn how to live in harmony with the world around you
  • Learn how to increase your wellbeing and life satisfaction through mindful living
  • Learn about the power of forgiveness and compassion
  • Learn how accepting that everything happens for a reason can reduce stress and help you to find your path and understand your own personal story
  • Learn about the importance of leading a life of humility, gratitude and acceptance
  • Discover how getting your innate emotional needs met in healthy ways can lead to life balance and wellbeing

If you are interested in this online training you can visit the Church of Jediism website to sign up for it. This is the only place this training of mine is available and to my knowledge this is the only training like this available anywhere.

Published My 30th Book!

I haven’t blogged in about a month because I have been busy finishing my latest two books.

The first of these books is my 30th book which is a milestone I’m proud to have reached.

As readers of my blog will know, my main focus is as an autism advocate sharing my experiences as an autistic individual and as someone who has spent much of my working life supporting other autistic people, their families, friends and other involved professionals.

One thing I am always keen to point out is that although being autistic has many challenges, we also have many strengths and being autistic isn’t a barrier to success.

Some people need support or guidance, or perhaps education around learning certain skills or learning to use skills they have and perhaps traits they didn’t think of as skills, but autistic people are as capable as anyone else at achieving things.

I remember about 20 years ago I had quit a job because of changes they were making to the workplace. A few months later they asked me to return. I went and met with the manager to talk to them about their proposal for me returning. I shared about what I wanted to achieve in the future – I was about 20 at the time. The manager told me that I should forget those dreams, I’m the type of person who will only ever be a member of staff, not someone who can achieve anything with my life – so I left and never took their proposal for returning to the job.

This wasn’t the only time I had this kind of reaction. I had many people tell me to forget these ideas of achieving things, especially when I would repeatedly fail. Something about me is that I rarely give up when I am trying to achieve something. If something fails I analyse what I could do differently and try again. If I decide I want to do something I do it, and often over-do it. My wife has regularly commented on how I could have set an easier target and everyone else would still be happy. An example of this was deciding to do 40 bedtime story videos on my YouTube channel across 40 days for my 40th birthday. This was a lot of work, it had a negative impact on my channel (I lost subscribers, rates of new subscribers halved, video views dropped by about a third), but I committed to doing this, it took me hundreds of hours to make the videos and upload them etc., to YouTube, but I had made a commitment and wasn’t going to break the commitment. One year I entered National Novel Writing Month. Because I worried that I would lose interest in the novel I was writing across the month I decided to write the 50,000 word novel in a week.

Anyway, I went off topic a bit there! But, what I was just trying to emphasise is that being autistic doesn’t mean you can’t do things and be successful. You may struggle with somethings, for example, I would love to be more successful as an author, I would love to have a talent agent who could support me and represent me, I would love to have a more successful YouTube channel to raise awareness of autism and mental health, but I really struggle with making phone calls, with being social enough to engage with others. I’ve been to official YouTube networking events (even whole day events) and come away annoyed with myself for failing to manage to talk to anyone. I have never managed to interest people in collaborations etc, but I then attend the next YouTube event, I approach the next talent agency and I continue trying whatever I can to push towards what I would like to achieve and continue to work hard everyday despite the continued presence of the urge to sit alone in the woods…

These two books are part of a new ten volume series of books I’m writing called Hypnotherapy Revealed Book one is Introduction to Hypnotherapy (http://smarturl.it/22y8sl) Book two is The Ericksonian Approach (http://smarturl.it/4oakl9)

Both are available in paperback and kindle ebook from the Amazon websites. You can find details for them on my Hypnotherapy Books page here on my website.

I have also recently contributed to friend and colleague Dr David Lewis’s book (we run The Mind Changers together) Triumph of the Will? (out this week on Amazon in paperback and Kindle) Which is about the impact of two men who used hypnosis with Hitler, one treated him for hysterical blindness and his hypnotic approach accidentally set Hitler on a new path, and the other taught Hitler hypnosis influence skills. I have written a blog post for Dr David Lewis which is on the books website.

Although I have finished working on these two latest books just two months after I finished working on my Bedtime Stories for Grown-ups book (you can learn more about that book on my Storytelling Books page) I still have much more I am working on…

Books I am currently working on are:

  • Volume three of my ‘Hypnotherapy Revealed’ series ‘Hypnotherapy Trance Scripts’
  • ‘Wellbeing for YouTuber’s and Digital Entrepreneurs’
  • Third book in my series of stories to help children relax and sleep (11 stories in each book) ‘Sleepy Rhyming Tales’
  • A book with Dr David Lewis (working title) ‘There Are No Problems, Only Solutions’ which is a self-help book

Until next time…

All the best

Dan

The Power of Touch

In ‘New Scientist’ (28th February 2015) is an article ‘The Touch That Made You‘. It is an interesting article about the power of touch. I have always found the power of touch really interesting. Many years ago I read a science article story about twins that were born in a hospital, one of the twins wasn’t doing so well and was placed in an incubator. It was thought that that baby would pass away. There was a policy that the baby needs to be kept in a sterile environment, so no contact with people, even the sibling.

A nurse thought that if the baby was going to pass away then the twin should at least hve had a chance to be near to the sibling before it dies, so she put the twin next to the baby in the incubator and the babies both instinctively reach out and cuddled each other. In this moment the vital signs of the ‘dying’ baby started to improve, and eventually both twins left the hospital healthy.

This story was in an article about epigenetics which is a fascinating field of study about how genes can be expressed (turned on or off) depending on environmental stimuli.

Touch is one of those stimuli, when we experience gentle touch it triggers the release of hormones like endorphines. These endorphines are messenger molecules that ‘tell’ the DNA how it should be expressed triggering healing, wellbeing and a sense of calmness. Touch can also increase bonding and closeness.

The article talks about two different types of touch receptors, one type is useful for every day life, these are mainly in the hands, mouth, and tongue and are useful for dexterity, eating and doing various other everyday tasks that require a good sense of touch. The other type of receptors seem to be linked to gentle touch and slow movements, like stroking. These receptors are mainly found on the scalp, the upper arm, shoulders and down the back and upper legs. There are other sensory receptors that detect pain and other sensations, but these are the two that detect touch.

The other receptors pass signals quickly to the brain, whereas these receptors send signals slowly to the brain, with the signals taking perhaps up to a second to arrive at the brain.

One thing the article touches on briefly is how touch can be used to influence. This isn’t covered in any great detail but this has always interested me, and learning about the two different types of touch receptors helps me to understand the impact touch can have on someone based on where that touch is. I know that may sound like I am saying something obvious, but it is more about some of the things I haven’t thought much about in the past. So there are some places clearly you would get very different responses to other areas, because some touch would clearly be inappropriate. This isn’t what I was thinking about, but rather the difference between touching on the hand versus touching on the upper arm.

As a hypnotherapist I may well touch the back of the hand to do anchoring, which is a process of creating an association, and if I chose to touch the upper arm instead in the past it may well have been an arbitory decision, whereas know I know that touching the upper arm is likely to lead to endorphines being released, it likely to lead to an increase of wellbeing and healing, so if I want these elements to be present it would be sensible to touch the upper arm rather than the back of the hand. Perhaps if I wanted something more neutral I would touch the back of the hand instead.

Likewise for influence, if a sales person wants to create a connection and a feeling of calm well-being in the customer they would be better off gently touching the upper arm. I know generally people are more agreeable and more likely to do as they are asked and more likely to follow suggestions if you touch them gently as you ask them without giving any attention to the touch, so that they don’t pay conscious attention to the touch.

What are your views on touch, and on the use of touch? Have you used touch in therapy or sales or as a parent and found it works well or have you had a different experience?

You can check out further information about touch and emotion research here

Help With Depression

Research has shown that in almost all cases depression is not a biological or genetic illness. The biological changes that occur are the result of the depression not the cause. In some cases the biological effects are caused by diet, and pregnancy can also cause depression, although most cases of post-natal depression are caused by the highly emotional thinking the depressed person is doing rather than being driven by the chemical changes. And most depression that ‘runs in families’ is due to learning how to respond to the World around us how the parents or grand parents did, learning a depression way of responding in the same way that a child learns to walk, talk and behave from parents and adults in their life.

Studies carried out in the US to try to find out what works when treating depression showed that to quickly lift depression what was needed was a mixture of cognitive, behavioural and interpersonal therapies. This has now been improved upon by also utilising a solution-focused approach, a human givens approach and guided imagery or hypnosis.

When a therapist works with a client to help them ensure their basic needs are being met and helps to get their focus of attention off of worrying and ruminating and onto problem solving and relaxing the mind, depression often lifts quickly. To significantly lift depression can now often takes less than three sessions. Depending on how depressed someone is, some people can make the changes they need to make themselves without help just because they know what changes are needed to be made, whereas other people need a little encouragement, and some need a therapist or coach that can help them to make the changes. And although depression can be lifted quickly that doesn’t mean that depression is lifted quickly with everyone. There can be a lot going on in someone’s life that has led to the depression and that maintains the depression that needs to all be addressed before the depression is finally able to be lifted for good.

Most depression is caused by emotional worrying

It could be worrying about a past problem or event, present problem or event or a future problem or event. This worrying causes over dreaming at night. When you dream too much it inhibits the release of serotonin and is almost as active as being awake. It also reduces the abilities of the immune system. All of this leads to waking up early as your brain wants to stop you from dreaming excessively, then often managing to get back to sleep yet still waking tired and unmotivated. This can then start off the next days’ cycle of worrying.

When depressed your thinking style changes as you are in a highly emotional state of mind. It can be like walking around in a trance (I would say you are walking around in a trance). You start thinking that everything has always been bad and always will be and that if anything good ever happens it won’t last, or it was only a one-off good thing, or ‘looking back on it, it wasn’t that good really’. Because you are in a highly emotional state you can’t think effectively about your problems so they can seem easily overwhelming because the emotional part of the brain and the logical part of the brain are two different areas, so when you are in any highly emotional state, whether it is depression, or even love, you don’t see different options, you don’t notice all the information about a situation, you become blinkered or blinded by the emotional trance you are in making it hard to see a way out.

To lift depression clients can learn to relax. This can be in many ways. One of the best is to do 7-11 breathing which is where you breathe in deeply to the count of 7 then out to the count of 11. By doing this with the out breath longer than the in breath you trigger the relaxation response. Just 3 or 4 deep 7-11 breaths will help to relax a client and focus their mind.

Next the client can challenge their thinking by thinking about what it is that they are worrying about and problem solving it. Also they can spend time each morning closing their eyes and truly imagining some good things about the upcoming day. At night or in the evening also spend a few moments to imagine what it will be like to feel much better, who will be the first to notice? How will they know? What will their behaviour be like? Really imagining it and feeling it.

AS SOON AS CLIENTS STOP WORRYING THEIR SLEEP WILL IMPROVE AND THE DEPRESSION WILL RAPIDLY START TO LIFT.

I cover depression on my course ‘Introduction To Overcoming Emotional Problems’ (Coming Soon) Which introduces about basic emotional needs, innate skills and abilities, and a variety of psychological problems and ideas about how best to treat them.

Below is a set of two self help tracks that can help to support people in lifting depression and anxiety. There is also a comments section. I look forward to your comments about the article, about the tracks, and if you have come here because you have been feeling depressed I look forward to hearing your progress and experience, and what you have found helpful to move on that you think would be helpful for others to know.

Feel free to share this article with others that you think may benefit from the article or the tracks.

There are some other locations on the web you can find useful information, like here about seasonal affective disorder (SAD), and here about treating depression with hypnotherapy vs CBT.

Free Self Help Wellbeing Tracks – Use Both Tracks, They Are Interactive So To get The Most From These Tracks Follow The Instructions And Carryout The Tasks.

Track One

Track Two

Help With Anxiety

Anxiety is the natural survival response to run or fight being triggered at the wrong time. This response is designed to help you but in modern times this is often triggered by events from job interviews to social situations etc…

Anxiety and panic attacks are caused by a misuse of the imagination. For example worrying about an upcoming presentation you will be giving. Each time you imagine how bad it will go you create a template that your mind follows that tells it how it should feel about that event. Because you have the ability to use your imagination well enough to affect you, this means if you imagine it going well and look forward to it then that is the template that you lay down. This works by really building up the experience vividly in your mind getting pleasant, desirable feelings linked to the event.

When you have panic attacks or get anxious it shuts down the digestive system and all non-essential systems. It prepares your body to fight, run or freeze (playing dead). These responses could save your life in the appropriate situations. Even if it feels like you are going to die, you won’t. The feelings are because of the digestive system shutting down and because of the adrenaline released into the body. Most people say it feels like butterflies in their stomach, or a churning sensation.

Some people believe they will collapse or faint. Even if you do pass out your breathing will go back to normal and you will come round again. If you have a panic attack, rate the anxiety on a scale out of 10 and you can keep track of how quickly it is going. The chemicals released into the body that cause the feelings of anxiety leave the body after only a short while.

Whenever you are feeling stressed or anxious or just want to relax you can try 7 – 11 breathing.

Breathing in to the count of 7 then out to the count of 11.

You can learn the AWARE technique. Whenever you get anxious or have a panic attack you can remember AWARE:

A = Accept the anxiety, don’t fight it

W= Watch your anxiety, rate it from 1-10 and watch as that rating changes

A = Act with the anxiety, behave normally & do what you intended to do, breathe normally or do 7-11 breathing

R = Repeat all of the above steps until it goes down to an comfortable level

E = Expect the best, what you fear most normally never happens, mentally rehearse experiences where you thought you might have felt anxious in the past but surprise yourself when you don’t.

You can also do some mental rehearsal or guided imagery.

For Example:

‘Close your eyes, relax, vividly imagine watching yourself remaining calm whilst doing something in the future you would usually have found caused anxiety. Then imagine seeing yourself in that scene and notice how pleasant it feels to have this different response. Then once you have practised seeing yourself remaining calm and responding as you would like, you can imagine stepping into the scene and experiencing it in this new way as if you are really there, seeing what you would see, hearing what you would hear, and feeling the new calm or appropriate feelings. Then rehearse this regularly.’

During a panic attack if you take control of your breathing this will help you take control of the panic, if you feel it coming you could chew some gum or eat a small amount of food because you can’t be anxious fully at the same time as having your digestive system working.

You can practice sitting down and relaxing and then anchor that relaxation response. This response can then be fired off when you are in a situation that may make you feel anxious. You can practice this anchoring and firing the relaxation response, imagining being in situations that would normally cause anxiety and using the anchor to relax. The more you practice this the stronger the response will be.

Below are two tracks for improving well-being and reducing anxiety and depression. They can be played on the site or downloaded (small writing under the track with a link saying ‘download mp3’).

There is also a comments section below where you can leave comments or questions. And if you know anyone that this article would benefit feel free to share it with them.

There are some other useful places with information about tackling anxiety for example Genius Awakening has Five Ways To Quiet The Mind When You Feel Intense Anxiety, and you can find information about Generalised Anxiety Disorder here

Free Self Help Wellbeing Tracks – Use Both Tracks, They Are Interactive So To get The Most From These Tracks Follow The Instructions And Carryout The Tasks

Track One

Track Two

Help With Addictions

We are all born with the ability to create habits and with the process to get addicted. Without these abilities mankind wouldn’t have lasted as long as we have. There are many things that naturally turn into habits so that we don’t have to pay all our attention to them just to do them. Like driving a car, brushing teeth etc…

Sometimes this process gets high-jacked by a negative habit, like finding yourself smoking before you realise what you are doing. The process for addiction also serves a useful purpose. The process gives you a ‘high’ when you do something and causes irritation or uncomfortableness when you don’t.

This process is required for survival and evolution.

For example when a stone-age man used a stick to break open a coconut the ‘high’ of that achievement wears off over time so the stone-age man then turns that stick into an axe with a piece of flint. He then gets another ‘high’ from that achievement which also wears off over time. This process keeps the stone-age man reaching a point where he needs to do something to get that same high. Addictions high-jack this process giving a ‘high’ when carrying out the addictive behaviour and causing uncomfortableness when fighting to not carry out the behaviour. Over time you need to do more of the addictive behaviour to get the same ‘high’.

A useful analogy of addiction and the associated cravings is one of a company that wants to make positive changes. The ‘boss’ which is the part of you that is saying ‘I want to quit smoking (for example)’ has good intentions. Beneath the boss is a ‘secretary’ that monitors incoming messages from the body. The ‘security guard’ monitors levels of various chemicals in the body but doesn’t know what should or shouldn’t be there, the guard just alerts the secretary if any of the chemicals begin to go missing or reduce.

When the boss has stopped the intake of nicotine, after a short while it starts reducing in the blood. The security guard notices this and so he emails a message to the secretary. This message is laced with dopamine which is a feel good chemical. The secretary checks on the computer and sees that the boss has said ‘no cigarettes’. So the secretary ignores the message. As the nicotine goes down even further the security guard sends another message laced with even more dopamine. This time the secretary does a search on the computer for memories where nicotine has been taken into the body, and searches for memories that are also laced in dopamine. What the secretary discovers is that smoking has made the boss feel good when stressed, when bored, when socialising, etc… So the secretary sends a message to the boss laced with even more dopamine for the boss to act on.

The negative addictive behaviour once served a purpose

People start addictive behaviour for many reasons. It could be many things from peer pressure to experimentation. Often the behaviour initially is only in one context, like smoking with specific friends, or drinking with friends. One thing that all addictive behaviours have in common is that they give you a ‘high’. It could be a ‘high’ from doing a risky extreme sport, or a ‘high’ from taking a specific substance.

To start with this addictive behaviour is in your control. The bigger the ‘highs’ the sooner the addictive behaviour takes on a life of its own. Due to the way the brain works at some point when you feel anxious or bored you will want to relieve this feeling. To do this you turn to the most effective thing you know, which is often the addictive behaviour. This how you begin to create a habit for that behaviour. As long as you continue to do the addictive behaviour your mind will get used to the levels of various substances in your blood stream, whether these substances are created by your mind, like endorphins, dopamine, adrenaline etc, or whether these substances are added to your blood stream like nicotine.

Once you stop the addictive behaviour it takes a period of time for the chemicals in your blood to go back to normal. This period of time can be as little as a few hours for chemicals created internally, to a few days for chemicals like nicotine and longer for some stronger drugs. Once the chemicals in the blood have normalised all that is left is the habit, not the need for the chemicals.

The reason for turning to the addictive behaviour when you feel anxious or bored is that it gives you pleasure, or an instant feeling of gratification when you carry out the behaviour. Unfortunately most addictive behaviour quickly follows with a greater feeling of anxiety or depression as the effects of the behaviour wear off. This means that you have to do more of the addictive behaviour to get the same results.

Beating the addiction

One way to beat addiction is to link the addictive behaviour with the most negative outcomes you can vividly imagine, and not carrying out the addictive behaviour with the most positive outcomes you can vividly imagine. People with addictions will always have one or more of the basic needs or innate skills not being met, so find constructive ways to meet these.

Plan for times when you are most likely to give in to the addiction, finding ways to prevent the old behaviour pattern.

Don’t be put off by a relapse. Many people have a few relapses before they finally completely get rid of that addictive behaviour. When the addiction strikes it is actually only mildly uncomfortable to ignore the urge for the addictive behaviour but it tricks you into thinking it is worse. It also only lasts a few minutes. Try comparing it to other things like would you prefer a nagging toothache or this brief uncomfortableness for the addictive behaviour? Learn to relax; this lets you think more objectively and clearly. To relax you could breathe in to the count of 7 and out to the count of 11. The longer out breath triggers the relaxation response. Regularly vividly imagine the negative outcomes had you continued with the addictive behaviour and vividly imagine the positive outcomes of not carrying out that behaviour, what will it be like, what are the benefits, who else benefits, etc…

Feel free to leave comments below about how you get on overcoming addiction and please share this article with others that may be interested.