8-Hours of Sleep Stories: 2019 Collection Vol. 01

This sleep meditation sleep stories for grownups album is available on most downloads and streaming services including Spotify, iTunes, Apple Music, Amazon Music, Google Music and Soundcloud (search your preferred streaming or downloads service to find the album, or search for specific tracks).

The sleep meditation sleep stories for grownups on this album are:

  • An Egyptian Cat’s Ocean Adventure
  • An Underground Civilisation
  • Dreaming in a Moonlit Meadow
  • Dreaming Wisdom
  • Exploring a Lucid Dream
  • Me-time by the Lake
  • Meditating on a Rose
  • Mermaid on the Rock
  • Cave of Wisdom
  • Teddy Bears Picnic
  • The Ancient Civilisation
  • Ballet Dancer’s Dream
  • The Cabin in the Woods
  • The Computer Game

“Escaping The Unicorn Basket” Recommend Read

Escaping The Unicorn Basket is a fascinating insight through the eyes of the author into life before, during and after transitioning from female to male.

Alexander Marcus shares his thoughts, experiences and ideas about being transgender, giving insights into his world and why he transitioned. He shares about those who were supportive as well as challenges he has faced along the way with people in his life and with professionals he has encountered.

A few months ago I was emailed by Alex and asked if I would review his book Escaping The Unicorn Basket. In the email Alex said “I have no idea whether or not you are LGBT+ friendly”. I felt sad seeing this written because I naively assume that people are kind and respectfully to each other and think it is a shame that Alex felt he had to write that. Alex shared about often meeting negativity from people and so he makes it a habit to ask when he is approaching people he doesn’t know personally. After reading Escaping The Unicorn Basket I can see why Alex might feel the need to ask people he doesn’t know whether they are LGBT+ friendly. In his book he talks about friends he has lost because of revealing that he is transgender.

In Escaping The Unicorn Blanket Alex shares his thoughts, experiences and ideas about being transgender, giving insights into his world and why he transitioned. The first thing which struck me was the way the book is written in a personable and engaging manner. The book also poses interesting questions which I’ve never given thought to before, like “when did you know you were a boy or a girl?” This is something I had never thought about before. Alex explains about his childhood and knowing who he was and disliking the imposed rules expecting him to conform to fit in in school and to play the expected role as a girl.

The book overall was a fascinating, informative and emotive read, it takes the reader from Alex’s childhood, through his teens and into adulthood. Alex shares about challenges he has unfortunately faced with educational and medical professionals over the years as well as struggles with relationships, with friends, in school and within work and the mental health challenges he has experienced. There is also mention of those who stood by him and supported him on his journey. I also found it an interesting read gaining insight into his experiences within different countries that he has lived in. The book explains about the process of transitioning from female to male and gives information about the different options available. Some of the information Alex shares is information that he says he would find rude to be asked and uncomfortable to have to talk about, yet is information that many people are likely to be curious about.

There was one bit I found uncomfortable reading. I don’t normally have a problem with blood, but oddly, reading about a complication that happened following one of the procedures which involved blood was a difficult section of the book to read, although the way it was handled by the medical profession annoyed me more than my uncomfortableness from reading the blood-filled account.

I would definitely recommend people read Escaping The Unicorn Basket it is such a great book. You can find it on all Amazon sites as an eBook or in Paperback.

☀️ SUMMER SALE on Hypnotherapy eCourses – SAVE up to 95%

Are you looking for something new to learn through the summer?

Here, you can save up to 95% on these 16 courses of mine (further details below – all courses $9.99 USD/£9.99 GBP or equivalent Udemy currency conversion and taxes) which I have developed to help people to learn hypnosis and hypnotherapy and develop your skills and abilities as a therapeutic practitioner. You can click the links below to be taken straight to the individual courses on Udemy with discounts applied, or read down the page for course descriptions. You can also bookmark this email if you would like to follow the links and benefit from the discounts at some time in the future:

Have you ever wanted to be able to hypnotise anyone? Would you like to know how to do hypnosis without needing hypnosis scripts? Are you new to hypnosis, perhaps with no experience and wondering where to start? If you answer yes to any of these questions then this introduction to hypnosis course may well be for you. Building on my free Learn Hypnosis in an Hour course How to do Hypnosis teaches you what you need to know to be able to hypnotise anyone without the need for hypnosis scripts, this course is the next step up from my ‘Learn Hypnosis In An Hour course giving more detail and focusing more on developing your ability to do unscripted hypnosis. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The How to do Rapid Hypnotic Inductions course will teach you twenty hypnotic inductions (twelve rapid hypnotic inductions which can all be used to hypnotise people in under 60 seconds plus an additional eight hypnotic inductions which take anywhere from a few seconds to a couple of minutes to induce hypnosis). Learn how the inductions are done and the principles behind them. Learn about attention, confusion, and interrupting patterns. Learn about confidence, and the role that context plays to make the inductions more effective. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

The How to Write Hypnotherapy Scripts course teaches you how to write your own hypnotherapy scripts. The course is structured to give you the information you need to definitely know before you start writing scripts first, then the information about how to write and structure your scripts. Following this you will learn about gathering relevant client information. Then there is a section of hypnotherapy scripts samples to help give you ideas and more examples of hypnotherapy scripts, including a script which was written for a genuine client. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

The Self Hypnosis for Personal Development course is about how self hypnosis can be used to help with personal development and for overcoming problems. This course is also about how self hypnosis can be useful for clients in counselling or therapy. This course covers: What self hypnosis is, Uses of self hypnosis, How to make your own audio tracks, How self hypnosis can be integrated into counselling and therapy, Therapeutic techniques, Structured inductions, How to develop your own inductions, How to re-induce hypnosis and set up self hypnosis triggers. This course is also ideal for those new to doing hypnosis who would like some structured hypnotic inductions they can do with clients. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

The Conversational Hypnotherapy course isn’t the same as many courses on conversational hypnosis. My view is that many courses over-complicate how to do conversational hypnosis. This course helps you get a good grounding to build on by learning what hypnosis is, what trance is, the main theories about what hypnosis is and a brief history about hypnosis, and the different ways trance and hypnosis get induced. The course includes a number of hypnosis demonstrations. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Ericksonian Hypnotherapy course teaches you about the history of hypnosis, through to the work of Milton H Erickson and how to do Ericksonian Hypnotherapy. By the end you will know how to do hypnotherapy without the need for structured hypnotic inductions, without the need for hypnotherapy scripts, and without the need to just do ‘suggestion therapy’ hypnotherapy. You will know how to work with clients as unique, individual human being, and tailor what you do to each person as an individual. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Self Publishing Made Easy course is great for hypnotherapists and coaches looking to generate additional income by writing books and ebooks. The course teaches you how to find a niche market to write about, and how to judge the popularity of that niche, what research to carry out before writing your book, how to create and layout your manuscripts for print and ebook publishing, how to publish print-on-demand books with Lulu Publishing, how to publish print-on-demand books with Amazon’s CreateSpace publishing platform, the benefits and disadvantages between Lulu Publishing and CreateSpace, how to publish Kindle ebooks with Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing platform, how to market your book, and ways to increase book sales, and more. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Solution Focused Therapy course teaches you about the history of solution focused therapy, I then start with the big picture and hone in on the specifics. So you will learn why solution focused therapy is useful, what the benefits are of using a solution focused approach, and the therapeutic direction of using a solution focused approach. I will also share my views about doing solution focused therapy, based on over 20 years of working with a wide range of people using this approach. My opinion differs from many other solution focused practitioners and trainers around some areas due to my knowledge of the work of Milton Erickson and my experiences with hypnosis. I then share various techniques and talk about pre-session change as something to kick-start success and empowerment right from the first session, and the power of scaling, I also talk about best hopes, which is about establishing what the client wants from therapy, and exceptions, which are those times when the clients problem didn’t exist but they would have expected it to exist, or when it did happen, yet they would have expected it not to happen, and when it just doesn’t happen. Exceptions are where solutions and insights to the clients problem, and the pattern of the problem can be found. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The Introduction to Mindfulness Meditation course teaches you what mindfulness meditation is and how it works, how to prepare to experience mindfulness meditation and what the benefits of mindfulness meditation are to your health, wellbeing and success. The course also includes four guided mindfulness meditations: Re-centring Mindfulness Meditation, Body Awareness Mindfulness Meditation, Multi-Sensory Moment Mindfulness Meditation, Master Your Awareness Mindfulness Meditation. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The Introduction to Effective Parenting of Children and Teens course teaches you parenting styles and skills. If you work with families, children, or within parenting support services, or you have an interest in understanding parenting styles and what works when parenting children and teens, then this course is likely to be helpful to you. This course is based on two decades of experience I have had working with children and teens with challenging behaviour, ADHD, and Autism including helping to set up a therapeutic children’s home and carrying out parenting research with a Youth Offending Service around reducing youth crime and antisocial behaviour by teaching parents the skills and knowledge taught in this course to help them change how they parent, and working with parents and families through one-to-one support and group work. I also have Autism myself, which has helped give me a different perspective and a deeper understanding of those I have worked with. This course teaches what is known about effective parenting. I have taught everything in this course to parents, and to professionals who work with families. This course teaches what is felt to be the best approaches to effective parenting. What is taught here works with children and teens from those who behave well, to those who display violence and aggression, those with ADHD, and those on the autistic spectrum. Access The Course Here Saving 85%

The Smoking Cessation course teaches you what information to have on your referral form, how to decide what to charge and different ideas around payment plans, insurance and data protection (based on UK laws and rules), what you need to consider around whether to set up offering single session treatments, multiple sessions, or group work – either a course of group sessions, or a single day course, what information you need from a client before you decide whether to work with them, how to increase the effectiveness of your coaching by setting tasks for the client before they come for their first session, evidence-based approaches to helping people quit smoking, a selection of additional techniques which can be used to help smoker’s to quit smoking, a brief overview of the four main therapeutic approaches to helping people beat addictions – motivational interviewing, solution focused therapy, cognitive behavioural therapy, and hypnosis and the structure of what needs to be covered to best help someone quit. The course is structured chronologically so that you can imagine how the process would unfold, from what you need to consider before you see a client, to having first contact with the client, and what you expect of them prior to the first session, then through evidence-based practice around helping people achieve success with quitting smoking, and on to introducing different therapeutic approaches which are helpful to use when working with smokers, before covering the information you will need to address with clients to give yourself the best chance of helping them achieve lasting success, and finally additional techniques you can use with clients to help them stop smoking. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

The Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) course is a comprehensive introduction to the topic of CBT. It teaches CBT therapy skills which can help to treat anxiety and depression and a variety of other problems presented in counselling and psychotherapy like anger, addiction, self-esteem and confidence. This course is ideal for counsellors, NLP practitioners, hypnotherapists and life coaches who want to add CBT to their toolbox of skills and techniques and for those who would like to use these skills for self-help. The course includes an 80 page downloadable PDF workbook of the slides and space for taking notes on the lectures, a downloadable PDF supporting materials document which contains blank copies of all of the various documents covered throughout this course. This CBT course covers how to use cognitive behavioural therapy to treat anxiety, depression, addictions, low confidence and self-esteem, anger and sleep difficulties. Through this CBT course you will learn what CBT is, what the benefits are of doing CBT, the principles of CBT, how to identify problems and find solutions, how to identify the key thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviours to work on, how to tackle faulty thinking styles, how to challenge unhelpful beliefs and create helpful beliefs, how clients use metaphor and how to use metaphors therapeutically and relaxation and mindfulness skills. Access The Course Here Saving 95%

How To Tell Stories That Heal teaches you how to tell therapeutic stories. Most people don’t notice how prevalent metaphor use is when we communicate. In therapy clients will be communicating in metaphors to the therapist. These metaphors and other information the client shares can be used to develop healing stories which can be told to the client to help them move forward and overcome their problems. In this course you will learn how to identify metaphors, patterns and content that clients share, how to use this information to create therapeutic stories and metaphors and my process for presenting stories and metaphors to clients that I find most effective. I also include a free copy of my Hypnotherapy Training Tool (RRP £49.99 GBP) which you can download and use to practice creating therapeutic stories for clients with various problems and a video of a live client session taken from a training course where I demonstrate gathering information, finding metaphors and content for my story before presenting my therapeutic story as the sole therapeutic intervention with this client. The demonstration includes the clients reaction which shows the impact this one story had on them when created and delivered using the approach outlined in this course. Access The Course Here Saving 89%

Treating PTSD, Trauma and Phobias With The Rewind Technique. In this course you will learn how to treat phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder and the trauma underlying many problems (like depression, anxiety and addictions) often in a single session using the power of the rewind technique. The rewind technique is a fast, effective process for neutralising phobias, post-traumatic stress disorder and trauma rapidly. It is a technique which I feel should be in the toolbox of all psychological therapists and coaches. To aid your learning there are additional notes and I have included 12 of my self-hypnosis PTSD and phobia treatment mp3’s that you can use yourself or listen to as examples of using the rewind technique to treat different phobias and PTSD. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

Understanding and Treating Depression is a course for counsellors, hypnotherapists, and other professionals working with clients who may have depression. The course can also be taken by those interested in gaining a greater understanding about depression for personal development or learning. This course contains a 54-page PDF of extensive course notes and a document listing recommended reading and links to articles to supplement the information covered. On this course you will learn: what depression is and the symptoms of depression, what causes and maintains depression and how to treat depression. Access The Course Here Saving 93%

In this Understanding and Working With Autistic Client’s in Therapy course I share the different challenges and traits autistic people have and how these can manifest and impact on the problem the client is presenting with, how they can manifest and impact on the therapy and how you can work with the client and present your therapy to get the best results. You will also have an idea of the kinds of things which clients may say and do that could lead to you as a therapist to feel that the client could be autistic. This isn’t a course teaching you how to do therapy or coaching, the expectation is that you are already trained to do therapy or coaching if you are working as a therapist or coach. This course teaches you about the traits, challenges and strengths of autistic clients and how the client being autistic can impact on their life and on how they respond in therapy to give you ideas about understanding autistic clients better and have ideas and insights for how you can best help them. The course doesn’t teach you how to ‘treat’ autism as autism isn’t something you can cure. Autistic people are born autistic and can’t be ‘cured’ of autism, but I am open about my own personal experiences within the course and share my own examples and examples of experiences of people I have worked with to illustrate what behaviours others might see and what is going on for the autistic person in that moment, and what things can help the autistic person, like what skills they might need to be taught to reduce the impact of certain challenges the client may have on the presenting problem. Access The Course Here Saving 89%

All the best

Dan

I try to be very active in all of my training courses to help students with any questions they may have to get the most out of the training, and I try to respond within 24 hours to questions.

New Autism Course For Therapists, Coaches & Those Interested In Understanding What It Is Like To Be Autistic

It is World Autism Awareness Week 2019 from Monday 1st April. As a pre-WAAW2019 I wanted to tell you some exciting news. This is so new it isn’t even on my site on the courses page yet. I wanted you to be among the first to know about a new course I have created ‘Understanding and Working With Autistic Client’s in Therapy‘ which you can access here for just $9.99 USD (or equivalent price based on exchange rate and taxes for your country).

As well as having over 20 years of experience working with autistic individuals of all ages and working within a variety of contexts from care homes for adults, care homes for children and teens, to working with families, couples and individuals in private practice, I am also autistic, so this isn’t just a course by an autism professional about working with autistic clients. It is course from someone who can share their own lived experience of being autistic as well as professional experience with autistic clients.

Between 1 in 68 and 1 in 100 people are autistic depending on what data you look at. Many autistic adults are undiagnosed and may not even realise they could be autistic. Any counsellor, psychological therapist or coach in full-time practice is likely to encounter diagnosed and undiagnosed autistic clients. It could be that the client doesn’t realise that they are autistic. Most counselling, therapy and coaching training doesn’t cover autism, so the therapist also may not realise that the client could be autistic, yet knowledge of this could lead to better outcomes for that client and greater awareness of what support and guidance would be helpful.

This course may also be of interest to those who don’t do psychological therapy or coaching but who want to know more about how autism presents and what the world is like for autistic people and how autism can impact on problems people have and better understanding behaviours that you observe. This course focuses more on working with autistic adults rather than on working with autistic children but includes examples involving behaviours of autistic children and teens and includes a PDF of my autobiography which gives a frank description and insight at all ages of being autistic and shares my professional views as well as personal insights.

You can join the course here for just $9.99 USD (or equivalent exchange rate and taxes for your country) or follow the link to learn more and sample the first 30 or so minutes of video lectures.

Included with this course are:

  • 11 PDF supporting documents totalling over 18,000 words of additional content
  • A PDF of my autobiography ‘Look Into My Eyes’ about being autistic which is over 68,500 words
  • A PDF Sussex Hypnotherapy Centre certificate of completion which you can print out for Continued Professional Development on completion of the course

In this Understanding and Working With Autistic Client’s in Therapy course I share the different challenges and traits autistic people have and how these can manifest and impact on the problem the client is presenting with, how they can manifest and impact on the therapy and how you can work with the client and present your therapy to get the best results. You will also have an idea of the kinds of things which clients may say and do that could lead to you as a therapist to feel that the client could be autistic.

This isn’t a course teaching you how to do therapy or coaching, the expectation is that you are already trained to do therapy or coaching if you are working as a therapist or coach. This course teaches you about the traits, challenges and strengths of autistic clients and how the client being autistic can impact on their life and on how they respond in therapy to give you ideas about understanding autistic clients better and have ideas and insights for how you can best help them.

The course doesn’t teach you how to ‘treat’ autism as autism isn’t something you can cure. Autistic people are born autistic and can’t be ‘cured’ of the autism, but I am open about my own personal experiences within the course and share my own examples and examples of experiences of people I have worked with to illustrate what behaviours others might see and what is going on for the autistic person in that moment, and what things can help the autistic person, like what skills they might need to be taught to reduce the impact of certain challenges the client may have on the presenting problem.

Throughout this course you can ask any questions you may have and I will answer them as best I can. I am happy to be open and answer questions from my personal perspective as an autistic individual, or from a psychological therapist perspective.

You can follow this link to check out the first 30 minutes or so of video lectures for free and find out more about the course.

What you’ll learn

  • Learn about what autism is and the thoughts around what causes autism
  • Understand autistic traits, challenges and strengths and how these can relate to a client’s presenting problem and in therapy
  • Learn ways you can interact with autistic clients and what you can do to help and support the client therapeutically

Are there any course requirements or prerequisites?

  • To get the most out of this course you will ideally already be working as a psychological therapist or with people in a support, coaching or therapeutic capacity where knowledge of autistic clients would be helpful
  • If you want to print off the resources you will require a printer

Who this course is for:

  • Counsellors and psychological therapists, hypnotherapists and coaches who work may encounter diagnosed and undiagnosed autistic clients
  • This course isn’t for those who are looking for training in how to treat autism itself, there are ideas around helping autistic people with challenges they face by being autistic, but autism itself isn’t curable

The Relaxing Boat Trip (Free Sleep Story)

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-iuydy-ab0939

(Free) This hypnotic sleep story for grown-ups is about a man walking through the woods to a lake where he has a boat moored, he travels in his boat out onto the lake and drifts into an afternoon reverie where he dreams about being in a library and reading a book about Jack and the Beanstalk, only the story isn’t quite how he remembers it and he realises that it has been written to teach him something. After reading the book he places it back and finds a secret tunnel, he follows that tunnel deep under the library where he finds another book in a strange unknown language he seems to be able to understand, he goes through that book before finding another secret tunnel through a cave and out over looking a valley of dinosaurs, he goes into the valley for a while before finding his way back to the library and then drifting back from his reverie to discover the sun has set. He watches the milky way and shooting stars and drifts off to sleep. In the morning he wakes up to the warm morning sun on his face and a mist hovering low over the lake, travels back to shore and walks back through the woods.

You can find this story and about 100 others on my Dan Jones Hypnosis Sleep Stories Podcast to listen to as mp3’s. Find out more here: https://danjoneshypnosis.podbean.com/. You can also find over 100 sleep stories for grownups and over 20 sleep stories for children, plus hypnotherapy training videos, autism awareness and mental health videos, guided meditations and self hypnosis videos on my YouTube channel ‘Dan Jones Hypnosis’: http://www.youtube.com/danjoneshypnosis

You can also purchase my book ‘Bedtime Stories for Grown-ups’ which is a collection of 20 of my stories from my YouTube channel from Amazon and bookshops in paperback and on Amazon Kindle… Search Kindle, Amazon or bookshops for: Bedtime Stories for Grown-ups Dan Jones (You can follow this link to be taken to the book/ebook on your local Amazon website: http://hyperurl.co/etygs5)

ASMR Whisper Hypnosis (Male British Voice) for Personal Development

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-247sr-aa275f

(Free) This is an old ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) whisper hypnosis track of mine (so an ASMR male British voice). I made it in 2009. It is only a short track. I have always been fascinated with the feeling of entering hypnosis that some people would describe if I induced hypnosis in specific ways, like using a deep rumbling voice for words like ‘deeper’ and talking in a whisper, and also when inducing hypnosis with gentle touch, like gently, almost imperceptibly lifting someones arm and touching their hand and wrist area to get arm levitation and focusing attention with soft feather like touches.

You can also find this and dozens more on my Podcast (https://danjoneshypnosis.podbean.com/) and Dan Jones Hypnosis YouTube channel (https://www.youtube.com/danjoneshypnosis).

This is best listened to through headphones..

I have been going through many of my hundreds of old audio recordings, I’m sure I will share more here over the coming days and weeks…

Liam Neeson Controversy – A Psychological Perspective

Recently in an interview with the Independent newspaper Liam Neeson spoke about an incident which happened 30 or more years ago. He spoke about learning from a friend that she had been violently raped, he found that the perpetrator was black. In an angry desire for revenge he spent about a week to a week-and-a-half going out looking to be set upon by a black person so that he could seriously harm them.

Liam Neeson continues to say that after about a week-and-a-half he came out of this dark place and questioned what he was doing and was horrified by his actions and shocked that he had this primal response within him. In in interview with Good Morning America Liam Neeson explained a bit more about what happened and answered a question about how he had got more details than just the colour of the attackers skin. I think that when he was telling the initial story he was just focusing on the important elements relevant to what he was talking about which was that once he had a characteristic to look his rage around that became the focus of the rage. He said in the interview that if the person had been British, Irish, Scottish, etc., he would have reacted the same to that.

What I wanted to share in relation to this story was that I have recently written an article for Dr David Lewis, author of Triumph of the Will? which is a book about how Hitler the man became Hitler the leader. The article I had written was focused on the work of Dr George Estabrooks who wrote a book in 1943 called Hypnotism. In that book is a chapter about Hitler and about crowd manipulation which I felt was relevant to a lot of what is going on in the World today and when this story about Liam Neeson broke I felt that it had some relevance to this as well.

My background, for those who don’t know, is in psychological therapy, specifically focusing on family support, anxiety and anger problems and depression. I am also a hypnotherapy instructor.

From what I have seen and read about what Liam Neeson said there seems to be a clear divide between those who think that this happened a long time ago, there hasn’t been a string of evidence to say he has carried on with racist behaviours over the last thirty or so years and he is describing something that could happen to pretty much anyone given similar circumstances. Then there is the other side which says he is obviously racist that he should be condemned for what he has said about how he behaved, that he shouldn’t work again, that he has ruined his career in a 17 minute interview whereas Kevin Spacey took years to ruin his career and that there is no excuse for the behaviour he described.

The article I wrote for Dr David Lewis was about mass hypnosis, or mob mentality, so it has a different angle to a single person who takes on a desire for revenge and violence towards a group of people based on the actions of a single person, but where it has relevance is in the way that the actions of one person can lead to emotionally charged people generalising their negative feelings to a whole group of people, especially if there is an underlying climate of negative viewpoints towards that group already creating a negative stereotype.

In the article, I wrote about how Dr Estabrooks described five components of mass hypnosis:

• Emotional contagion
• Restriction of the field of consciousness
• Social sanction
• Feeling of omnipotence
• Removal of inhibitions

Emotional contagion is where an individual gets swept up in the emotions of a mob or group. Restriction of the field of consciousness is where your awareness is narrowed to just one ‘reality’, so in the case of mob mentality you find yourself in a situation where everything on TV gives one version or reality ‘this group of people is bad/evil/dangerous’ etc, people you interact with perhaps talk with this perspective, the news you see and hear give this perspective. People are social animals and dependent upon the opinion of the group and will do things to conform to the group’s ideals. In mobs, there is a ‘group social sanction’ where people can develop a feeling of omnipotence which can lead to them feeling invincible and feeling like they can do anything and so more likely to follow along with anything presented with an attitude of expecting success. By being around the group certain behaviours are treated as acceptable and expected. This all leads to a removal of inhibitions leading to people doing things which they would never dream of doing in a ‘normal’ state of mind.

There are many examples of people behaving in unacceptable ways because of this process. There are example in ‘mobs’ like the London riots and riots which took place in other cities in the UK in 2011 where people who had never been in trouble with the police before, who were described as people who would never behave with violence, damaging property and looting, did these behaviours. When asked why they behaved in these ways they often replied that they didn’t know, they just seemed to get swept up in the situation.

Over recent years there have been many examples of people acting out of character and being abusive and committing crimes towards muslims, these types of crimes and abusive behaviour increase when terrorist attacks occur which are linked to a terrorist who also happened to claim to be muslim. So, the actions of a single person led to people generalising anger and hate and sometimes a desire for revenge onto innocent muslims. You hear about people setting fire to mosques and targeting groups of muslims without any evidence of those innocent muslim’s guilt.

The more emotional someone gets the more black-and-white they see things. The more emotional a person is the more their higher cortex is shut down and “high-level control over thought and emotion [transfers] from the prefrontal cortex to the hypothalamus and other earlier evolved structures” meaning that your thoughts and behaviours are all run through the survival brain which focuses on fight, flight or freeze, meaning you get an amygdala hijack and can be driven by anger or anxiety which can then dominate your thinking and in some cases can lead to obsessive thinking. Most people are likely to be familiar with when this happens from the flight or freeze side of things where they get stuck in obsessive negative rumination (worrying) driving behaviour to avoid the perceived threat. The flip side of this is being stuck unable to break-free of anger rumination driving behaviour to fight the perceived threat and get revenge.

“The amygdala’s emotional response provides a mechanism to work around the limitation of the prefrontal cortex’s reasoning. For example, the prefrontal cortex will remember what your ex-partner looks like, that petite brunette who dumped you for a new lover. It is the amygdala that is responsible for the surge of fury that floods your body when you see someone who looks even vaguely like your former mate. And “vaguely” is the operative word here. For when the amygdala tries to judge whether a current situation is hazardous, it compares that situation with your collection of past emotionally charged memories. If any key elements are even vaguely similar–the sound of a voice, the expression on a face–your amygdala instantaneously lets loose its warning sirens and an accompanying emotional explosion.” (From: Anger and the Brain: What happens in your head when you get angry)

It doesn’t make violent, aggressive or racist behaviours morally right, however, it does explain various behaviours. Because this process happens “vaguely” you can see how having a known identifiable feature like the colour of a perpetrators skin being something which triggers the anger which drives anger thinking and behaviours. I have worked with people who have experienced domestic abuse where I have been teaching group courses with a female instructor and when I have offered to write on the flipchart paper the women on the course have said things like “typical man, always telling women what to do”. When the female instructor has stood up deciding to write on the flipchart paper the women on the course have said things like “typical man, making the woman do all the work”. They would also frequently describe that “men are violent”, “men are horrible”, etc., and would say these opinions apply to all men. I would know these descriptions don’t apply to me, but they don’t know that. Part of the course I taught was for the women to see the way the female instructor and myself interacted and related to each other and as well as the material we covered over the 8 weeks of the course they would interact with me, I would interact respectfully back and they would see the interactions between the other instructor and myself and will hopefully realise that their generalisation of “all men are a certain way” is incorrect.

As humans, we generalise, we stereotype even if when we don’t mean to and we can easily tar others with a brush because of a single individual. In relationships people may tell their new partner “I am not your ex” because they are treating them as if they are going to cheat on them, they are constantly suspicious and untrusting etc. Following wars people can tar an entire country of people with a brush as if somehow all the people in that country are evil and can’t be trusted.

This is all made more likely when considered through the lens of the five components of mass hypnosis mentioned above where there is a backdrop of conflict, violence and revenge as being a part of everyday life and a backdrop of racism and negative descriptions about black people where the media support this idea, for example in England in the 1960’s there was a Conservative politician who said about voting Labour or Lib-Dem if you want black people being your neighbour and voting for them if you don’t – this won them their seat. This environmental backdrop narrows your field of consciousness and sanctions these violent behaviours and opinions as being acceptable among a prominent group of people giving the illusion of these behaviours being more acceptable. Liam Neeson’s highly emotional reaction to what he was told would have likely driven his thoughts and behaviours rather than the rational part of his brain (until he somehow saw what he was doing and came to his senses). In this highly emotional state Liam likely felt omnipotent and had no inhibitions, he probably had no thought of harm to himself or thoughts about consequences or what others would think of him. This is helpful in survival situations where rational thought about consequences and risk of harm to yourself and thoughts of not wanting to harm others might make you not put your all into fighting and so put you at greater risk of harm, but in situations like revenge or being angry at work or in other harmless or ‘threatless’ situations you can lose jobs, hurt (emotionally or physically) loved ones, etc., and regret your actions afterwards.

As an example of how anger can give a feeling of omnipotence and reduced inhibitions, many people have perhaps felt uncomfortable returning something to a shop, yet when they are angry in relation to what they are returning they have no problem complaining, they don’t feel self-conscious. Or when a parent is embarrassed about the behaviour of their child in a supermarket but then it reaches a point where they are now angry and they start shouting at their child in the supermarket. Later they may be embarrassed about the situation, but at the time they have gone from self-conscious to solely focused on being angry. Or getting angry about something at work and so telling the boss where they can shove the job and walking out only later realising they have lost their income and what the consequences are. As someone autistic with black-and-white thinking this kind of thing is something over the years I’ve struggled with where I would just quit a job and realise the consequences later, or quit a course or relationship etc., and later have to deal with the consequences of my actions.

Something that motivated me to write this was because I see it in the context of the World we are living in today which is rarely talked about. When the Brexit results were announced, there was a rise in racial hate crime, the outcome and all of the negative media about ‘immigrants’ and ‘migrants’ may have legitimised racial views, people talk in private about ‘immigrants taking our jobs/coming here and being given benefits and homes/being terrorists/rapists/child sex abusers, etc’ (whatever the various negative opinions are relating to different groups of individuals. From working within the social care sector and closely with the police over the years I know that reality is very different compared to what you read on the front of newspapers and hear from people when they share their opinions. When terror attacks happen these also lead to a spike in hate crimes, many of these crimes are obviously targeted at innocent people who had nothing to do with the terror attack etc, many of these people would never condone the attacks, yet they get targeted as if they are somehow bad people. There was also a rise in hate crimes (larger than the usual rise that seems to happen when elections occur) following Donald Trump becoming President in the US.

Some of the people who commit these racist crimes tell similar stories to Liam Neeson in that they found something highly emotional, causing them anger or fear which locked their mind on the idea of protecting their loved ones/their community and having thoughts of (or actually carrying out) violent acts without thought for consequences. These people previously showed no signs of being racist, so weren’t people who were actively racist perhaps with a small group of racists or online etc, but found a stimulus that legitimised this, but are people who were driven by their emotional brain and its desire to protect themselves, their family and community. This drive may have been helpful thousands of years ago as an animalistic response like you see in other apes where if one tribe of apes approaches the tribe sees that ‘other’ as a threat, knowing they will fight you and if you don’t fight then you, your family and your wider tribe will likely die, so you fight. But there are few situations in modern life where we need to react in this way. Unfortunately biology takes a long time to catch up with progress we have created with our intelligence.

So in closing this long (sorry!) blog post. Liam Neeson’s actions that he described can’t be condoned, but can be understood as not meaning that he is a bad or evil person who should never work again and whose films we should all boycott etc, but that he had an extreme emotional reaction to some shocking news which sent him to a dark place that fortunately he came out of and learned from before he did harm to anyone and should be allowed to openly talk about this without threats of how he shouldn’t get future movie roles or how he should be vilified etc.

It isn’t right to go out with the intent to cause harm or kill innocent people and not doing it because a situation never arose (no-one ever came out of a pub and started on him) doesn’t make it okay, clearly the implication from what he has said is that if someone had started on him he would have responded with extreme violence. He is right in that violence usually just leads to more violence and hatred to more hatred. He is also likely to be correct in describing that the anger just took hold. It is likely he went through a deeply emotional period of time where his thoughts and actions were filtered through the anger as described above. One of the ways of tackling this is to be mindful, to step outside of yourself and observe your thinking, feelings and behaviours objectively, to engage the higher cortex. This breaks down the emotional brains hold and can help give a realisation of what you are doing and give you a chance to break-free from the grasp of the emotional thinking. This is what seems to have happened for some reason after a week-and-a-half.

I feel that it is important that Liam Neeson should be able to openly share his story and that although it may be very uncomfortable to hear and we will all hopefully have feelings of disgust about the thought of the actions etc., it should be approached and talked about in a constructive way. That is what I have tried to do here, I have tried to share some of the human nature stuff that doesn’t condone actions, but does explain them and does help to put into contexts that someone isn’t a bad person because of a period of bad thinking or behaviour.

There are many people who may relate in some way who may recognise themselves in some aspect of what he describes where they recognise that some incident or series of incidents or news reports or rhetoric etc., have led them to develop racist or aggressive views towards others who are likely to be innocent, where they have generalised beyond being disgusted, scared or angered by the actions of an individual and holding views about the consequences that individual should face, to tarring a group with that brush. My hope would be that by Liam continuing the dialogue and engaging in interviews rather than shying away that people can learn and grow from this. I hope that interviewers take the stance of acknowledging and condemning the actions but focusing on what can be learned and on the importance of being able to be open about things. One thing as a therapist is that when someone tells you something you find shocking and uncomfortable to hear is the importance of not judging the individual and allowing them to speak helping them to understand that unless you feel there is a risk of harm to anyone (or harm or a criminal offence has taken place that needs reporting etc) that this is a safe place for them to talk about it. Once people fear judgement for their views they can stop sharing them and then not get help moving on from them. Obviously here Liam wasn’t in therapy, he was talking to a journalist and has since had to talk to many more about the same issue, but the same applies, that if it is portrayed that it is wrong to say “this thing happened and I just got this overwhelming urge to hurt x type of people (or whatever the thing is) and I just need to talk to someone about it because it scared me…” then these people will be stuck dealing with it themselves, not seeking help and not moving forward and some may end up drifting back into the anger etc., and find it becomes more consuming.

Anyway, that is my two cents (or 3235 approx words), as they say…

Do Not Buy This Book: Compiled By = Take Others Work Without Permission

I received Hypnosis: The Myths, The Truth and The Techniques ‘compiled by’ Dean Amory as a Christmas present. I wrote a shorter version of this review for Amazon to alert others to this book and author, but Amazon wouldn’t allow my review to be posted. They said it goes against their guidelines, but I have reviewed their guidelines and can’t see how? And I feel it is important for people to know about this book and more importantly about this author.

(Some of the people who have their work in this book: Jeff Sauber, Orkhan Ibad, D. John Anthony, Stephen Walkin PhD, Michael A Robinson RN, Trevor Johnson, Keith Livingston, David Mason, John Sadler, Ron Stubbs, Dr Frank Valente, Stephen and Carol Lankton, Kaiden Fox)

I have an extensive hypnotherapy book collection of over 600 books and have authored over 30 books myself. I had this book on my Amazon wishlist of hypnotherapy books I didn’t yet own. When I received the book, I started reading and saw that it says at the beginning that it is ‘compiled by’ the author and is works available on the internet compiled to make it easier to find these works. I assumed that the author (compiler) would have asked permission from the various contributors and then I saw my name and a link to my very old MySpace account saying that some of the work in the book was mine. My name, and the other authors names, were only mentioned at the beginning, so reading through the book you don’t know (unless you have read it before or are the author) what specifically is which authors work. 

There is nothing inherently wrong with much of the content, the issue is that this ‘compiler’ is stealing the works of others and profiting from it (and from researching the author he appears to still be doing so under various names through Amazon Createspace, Kindle Direct Publishing and Lulu Publishing). He is doing so with many of the books he has available and from doing research he is doing so as other author names as well, presumably following people challenging him over taking their work. On some of the books it says to email him if you have found your work used and are unhappy with this and he will remove what he used of yours and replace it with someone else’s. This essentially means he will replace your stolen work that you have stumbled upon and replace it with someone else’s stolen work until they stumble upon it.

The compiler seems to think that he is allowed to use the work because it has been published on the internet, and so totally misunderstands copyright. Some places, like Wikipedia, allow their work to be used in this way and state on Wikipedia that you can create books of compiled articles from Wikipedia and profit from this and you don’t even have to tell the reader that the book is just compiled Wikipedia articles the person could have read online for free. But other places, like my blog, is of content that belongs to the creator of that content that they are choosing to share on their own website or pages etc, and unless otherwise stated isn’t available for someone to take and use in its entirety.

The compiler isn’t just using extracts to expand on his own concepts or writing and including references like many books do where they may use a sentence, couple of sentences or a paragraph or two in context with what a section of a book and referencing so that people can trace the source, it is just others work copied and pasted into his book with some editing, which in the case of my work in this book has meant that because he clearly doesn’t know or understand the subject himself he has ruined the explanations. An example of this is where I gave an example of saying when presenting “You can find the handouts over by the products on the table at the back of the room” and adding emphasis to ‘by (buy) the products)’. The compiler has gone through the whole section I wrote on that (which is actually an extract from a sales book of mine where I shared some extracts from my book to give people a taste of what was in that book of mine, not so that someone would copy it and put it in their book, and they don’t even say it is an extract from my sales book) and only emphasised the word ‘by’ over and over again, and totally missed the point of what he is posting (I assume he pasted unformated and then tried to guess what words etc were embedded commands). It is cringing to read my own work being made to look so poor and made to not make proper sense.

I have contributed to dozens of books over the years, I also share extracts from my books as blog posts etc, not for people to take my work and publish it in its entirety in their own books. I am frequently happy to contribute to books and had the compiler asked myself and other authors whether we were happy to contribute our blogposts or to write a chapter etc many of us are likely to have said yes. I have written some long blogposts which would probably make good book chapters, and if an author asked and it stated that chapter was by me with a 50 word or so author bio about me and a link to my website I would likely agree to this, but I wouldn’t for this compiler now, because of the fact they have been doing this for years and have likely had this issue raised many times over the years (I have done some research and know that the issue has been raised with them a number of times in relation to different books and suspect that is why they have added their comment to newer books about if you find your work in a book and are unhappy with this, to get in touch and he will remove your work and replace it with someone else’s).

I would recommend not purchasing this book or any other books by this author. I will be trying to find a way to get this person’s books discontinued where they are doing this and hope that they change their approach to books. If you search the internet you can see that they often leave good reviews for their own books under different names, so I don’t imagine they will change unless Amazon, Lulu and other sites refused to sell their books and refuse to publish their work.

The Snowman (Sleep Story)

https://www.podbean.com/media/share/pb-btp3p-a279dd

(Free) This hypnotic bedtime story is The Snowman, about a child making a snowman which comes to life (I know, I know, the idea has been done – but there is no ‘walking in the air’, or child flying around with a snowman).

I have two more Christmas sleep stories which will be added to my sleep stories podcast over the next few hours. There won’t be additional posts here on my blog about them, so check out the Dan Jones Hypnosis podcast for all free and premium stories.